http://www.maryellenquigley.com/2011/11/effects-of-teasing.html
It's difficult to read... at least it was for me. I didn't know Mary when she was in school. We met years later when we both worked for the same retailer. Since I've known Mary, I've been overweight myself. But during the time in my life in which she described.... I wasn't the overweight kid. I was the kid getting made fun of because my mom was overweight. That was traumatic enough. I can only imagine how the pain was intensified when the comments were directed directly at her.
Now as an adult, I envy her ability to overcome the hardships that come with being overweight and her determination to lose weight for HERSELF and not because someone else thinks she needs to. I admire that she is willing to admit why she eats. Here I sit and I'm still in denial as to why I can't lose weight. I blame medication that I'm on or life being too busy to exercise. I've had the last 6 days off of work and the closest I got to exercise was.... well.... does vacuuming the living room count? I honestly don't believe that I overeat... yet here I sit at a well rounded 215 lbs. It is an improvement... about 6 months ago or more I was sitting at 237. But I lost the 15 some odd pounds by doing nothing more then changing my medications.... hence why I still hold the medications responsibility despite the fact that I'm still off the medications that I blame for causing the weight gain and still can't get down to even the 180 lbs I was about 2 years ago. I wish for the days when I was 120 lbs, but then I look back at pictures and I look anorexic.
I guess the moral of her story is that as difficult as it might be, you have to be happy with yourself despite what other people think. You have to know what your own shortfalls are and be willing to admit them to others if you truly want to make a change in your life. Thank you Mary for posting your story, and I hope you don't mind me sharing your story here. I have young readers who may experience some of the hardships that you did and I felt it important to show them that there is a better life out there for them.
Now as an adult, I envy her ability to overcome the hardships that come with being overweight and her determination to lose weight for HERSELF and not because someone else thinks she needs to. I admire that she is willing to admit why she eats. Here I sit and I'm still in denial as to why I can't lose weight. I blame medication that I'm on or life being too busy to exercise. I've had the last 6 days off of work and the closest I got to exercise was.... well.... does vacuuming the living room count? I honestly don't believe that I overeat... yet here I sit at a well rounded 215 lbs. It is an improvement... about 6 months ago or more I was sitting at 237. But I lost the 15 some odd pounds by doing nothing more then changing my medications.... hence why I still hold the medications responsibility despite the fact that I'm still off the medications that I blame for causing the weight gain and still can't get down to even the 180 lbs I was about 2 years ago. I wish for the days when I was 120 lbs, but then I look back at pictures and I look anorexic.
I guess the moral of her story is that as difficult as it might be, you have to be happy with yourself despite what other people think. You have to know what your own shortfalls are and be willing to admit them to others if you truly want to make a change in your life. Thank you Mary for posting your story, and I hope you don't mind me sharing your story here. I have young readers who may experience some of the hardships that you did and I felt it important to show them that there is a better life out there for them.
You are more than welcome to share this Nina. Yes, the purpose of my post was to tell others that they need to be happy with themselves first. Other people always bring you down for something.
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