A Sister's Love: An Inside Look at Bullying
A look at how young girls cope with the growing bullying epidemic.
Bully: A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.
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Friday, November 18, 2011
The Gift of a Friend
Tragic End for 10 Year Old Girl
The bullying for this girl started in 3rd grade after a poor haircut decision made her a target to the kids in her class. The bullying continued long after the haircut grew out. She was in the 5th grade --- the same grade my son is in --- at school. She had reportedly spoken to teachers and was told to "stop tattling." Her mother's advice was for her to go directly to the principle when she returned to school... but she would never return to school again.
Please read the original article before continuing
http://www.thedaily.com/page/2011/11/15/111511-news-girl-suicide-1-3/
It doesn't surprise me that the allegations got brushed aside as a "kids being kids" type problem instead of a more serious situation. I've seen that happen before when real help was needed. Any allegation I believe needs to be taken with seriousness and it should be unlawful to do otherwise. As far as the parents however are concerned, why didn't they step in and contact the school directly if they knew what was going on? If she was in such a depressed state, why wasn't she being seen by a doctor? Her mother admitted that her daughter felt like everyone hated her. That she admitted this fear to her several weeks ago and yet she was left to fend for herself.
It takes a village to raise a child... it's a saying that is widely known... and its true. The blame in these cases often falls to more then one person... the blame falls to the school for ignoring the allegations of bullying... the blame falls to the parents for failing to get involved to fight for their child and get them the help they need... the blame falls to the aggressors who torment the child each and every day... the blame falls to the parents of the aggressors who taught them it's ok to treat others in such a horrific way as to make someone want to commit suicide...
Like I mentioned earlier, my son is 10 years old and in the 5th grade. To see him enter a room, he's still just a kid to me.... he doesn't have the worries of dating, acne, puberty, etc clogging up his life yet... I'm betting neither did the 10 year old girl who took her life last Friday... to think that kids are THAT cruel at THAT age before any of the real problems of adolescence even kick in has me worried for what kind of future our kids are in store for...
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Smiles for Danielle
My daughter was 15 when she took her life on May 20, 2011 due to bullying. This has forever changed our lives. Danielle had plans to attend The Art Institute of Denver after graduating. She was in ROTC Airforce program and played soccer for her high school. She had so much to be proud of, a 6 yr. old brother , a 4 yr old sister and a wonderful future. However, words hurt and cannot be erased. It is my families mission to help stop bullying. We are working with schools in our parish to adopt policies for bullying. Also, we are working to develope a stronger anti-bullying law in the state of La. I will not stop until something gets changed. Join our fight and support "Smiles for Danielle" group on fb. An awareness group for bullying and teen suicide. http://www.facebook.com/groups
The link below is to an article in our local paper it tells Danielle's story
http://bossierpress.com/index.
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Confessions of a Friend
http://www.maryellenquigley.com/2011/11/effects-of-teasing.html
Now as an adult, I envy her ability to overcome the hardships that come with being overweight and her determination to lose weight for HERSELF and not because someone else thinks she needs to. I admire that she is willing to admit why she eats. Here I sit and I'm still in denial as to why I can't lose weight. I blame medication that I'm on or life being too busy to exercise. I've had the last 6 days off of work and the closest I got to exercise was.... well.... does vacuuming the living room count? I honestly don't believe that I overeat... yet here I sit at a well rounded 215 lbs. It is an improvement... about 6 months ago or more I was sitting at 237. But I lost the 15 some odd pounds by doing nothing more then changing my medications.... hence why I still hold the medications responsibility despite the fact that I'm still off the medications that I blame for causing the weight gain and still can't get down to even the 180 lbs I was about 2 years ago. I wish for the days when I was 120 lbs, but then I look back at pictures and I look anorexic.
I guess the moral of her story is that as difficult as it might be, you have to be happy with yourself despite what other people think. You have to know what your own shortfalls are and be willing to admit them to others if you truly want to make a change in your life. Thank you Mary for posting your story, and I hope you don't mind me sharing your story here. I have young readers who may experience some of the hardships that you did and I felt it important to show them that there is a better life out there for them.
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Teen Girl Bullied By Teacher
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It's sad that it took the parents sending their daughter with a hidden tape recorder to uncover the abuse and bulling. The school should've taken the complaint seriously and begun their own investigation. Of course, hiding the tape recorder is probably the only way to get an accurate assessment of the situation in this particular case.
If this was your child being victimized, how would you go about seeing justice is served?
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Reflection on Harry's Law Queen of Snark Episode (spoiler alert!)
I did find the episode well written however. They showed both sides of the situation in a way that would make anyone stop and "give pause" to reconsider such actions. I had to agree 1000% that society creates a world full of bullies when you have TV analysts, politicians, newspaper writers, etc all attacking anyone they find to be newsworthy or that fits into their own personal/political agendas. How are today's youth supposed to learn the ramifications of their actions when they see it done so often in the community around them where no one is in trouble for behaving cruelly to others? One place to start is in our fictional story-lines.... the writers should've sent a message out there to all the bullies of the world that you must take responsibility for your own behavior. Another, and probably better, place to start is at home with our own kids. Lead by example at home. Don't be a bully yourself and don't tolerate anyone else in your life being a bully. If your kids engage in bully antics.... make sure they see the consequences. On the flip side don't let the warning signs of teen suicide, teen run-aways, and anti-social behavior get past you... no parent should ever be faced with trying to explain why their child took their life. Don't let the anti-social behavior continue - withdrawal is a cry for help... just because you can't hear the cries doesn't mean the cries aren't there... and as Brittany Snow has said, Love is Louder then Hate..... Love your child and help to make the hate go away.......
Read Ellen's take on the Harry's Law episode
http://www.afterellen.com/TV/harrys-law-tackles-bullying-with-an-episode-about-a-lesbian-teen
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Harry's Law 10-12-11
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Amber Alerts
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Survival Guide for Parents of Teen Girls
Monday, August 1, 2011
Graffiti: The Silent Bully's Best Friend
Thursday, July 28, 2011
'05 Bully Case Resurfaces to the News
To blog or not to blog?
Friday, July 22, 2011
More Comments about Munster Laptops
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Letter to Editor -- Not so fun reviews...
I am just as outraged by Munster schools forcing laptops on their students. But beyond the price tag, lack of communication and lack of choice, the real heart of the issue: Is it really wise to add so much extra computer time to a generation that is already lacking the social skills necessarily to survive in the real world?
Now, cyberbullies who had access to a computer only in the evenings or on weekends can torment their victims 24/7 — and the school is giving them this power. I have yet to read what monitoring is going to be put in place to ensure social networking isn't taking place during school hours.
Munster Superintendent Richard Sopko commented in the original article: "We have to give students a protective environment, and we lose control of that if we open it up to using their own laptops." I want to know how the school environment will be protected with the mass introduction of all of these "weapons" in the hands of cyberbullies.
— Nina Brown, Schererville
If the computers belong to the school as these will, the school has the right and the ability to look at history on the machine. The problem is much worse with home/private computers because the school can't access those.
I got so upset by the comments made by "nwimomto2" that I had to send a message directly to her. I don't know why I felt the need to explain myself, but I had to show her how ignorant she was being. This is what I sent her:
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Survey Opportunity
Subject: [bullyonline] Do bullying experiences in childhood have detrimental impact in adult life?
I am conducting a totally anonymous survey looking at people's school experiences and whether they influenced later life. I would like to know about everyone's experiences: whether your school life was mainly good or whether you recall some negative experiences e.g. others bad behaviour. This survey is part of my master's degree and has ethical approval from Brunel University and there is no commercial interest in this survey. Respondents must be over 18 years of age. If you would like to take part please click the link below.:
Letter to Congress
I am writing to you to ask for your support of national legislation that will empower schools and educators in their efforts to protect students from bullying and harassment both in school, and through the use of technology. Once considered something of a rite of passage or just kids being kids, bullying is now defined by experts in the fields of mental health and criminology for what it is — an act of abuse and terrorism on our most vulnerable citizens. FBI investigations have determined that bullying has been a contributing factor in over 70 percent of all school shootings, and research has linked bullying to a host of educational concerns including everything from academic failure to depression, substance abuse, delinquency, gang proliferation, self-harm and suicide.
Bullying is often a red flag of more serious psychological problems that escalate over time. Research has determined that one-in-four students identified as pattern bullies by third grade are convicted of a violent crime before the age of twenty-six, and 98 percent of these will go on to abuse their spouse, children, and co-workers.
The good news is that there is a great deal that can be done to change this. Several states have recently passed laws to address bullying both in school, and through the use of technology. Unfortunately, the training and implementation varies greatly from state to state and district to district. Florida has recently passed The Jeffrey Johnston Stand Up for All Students Act. From the beginning, this bill was recognized as the best and most comprehensive in the nation. Jeff's Bill has the "teeth" it takes to not only empower schools to protect our children, but to get help for the thousands of children that slip through the cracks of the education system only to end up in our criminal justice system as violent offenders. Before we demand that our children meet our high standards of academic achievement, we must first ensure the most basic duty of every adult member of society. We must guarantee our children the opportunity to learn in an environment that does not threaten their physical and emotional well-being.
I ask you as my elected official to please give your full support to this legislation, and help make America's schools a safe and nurturing place to learn for ALL children.
Sincerely,
Monday, July 18, 2011
Freedom to be Stupid?
ABC Family Cyberbully Premiere!
- What online rules do you make for yourself? These are not the rules that your parents/families have in place. If you don’t make rules for yourself, what kind of rules would you like to start?
- Don't give out private information
- Don't use your full name
- Don't friend someone unless you personally know them.
- Don't respond to odd emails or other requests.
- Why do you think people tend to share very private details about their life online? What information should stay private
- You think they've earned your trust.
- You are trying to get people to think you're cool.
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Cyberbully premieres tonight
Cyberbully
Cyberbully follows Taylor Hillridge (Emily Osment), a teenage girl who falls victim to online bullying, and the cost it takes on her as well as her friends and family. Taylor is a pretty seventeen-year-old student dealing with her parents' recent divorce and painfully aware of her lower social status in high school. When her mom gives her a computer for her birthday, Taylor is excited by the prospect of going online to meet new friends without her mother always looking over her shoulder. However, Taylor soon finds herself the victim of betrayal and bullying while visiting a popular social website. Obsessed with the damaging posts, she begins to withdraw from her family and friends, including her life-long best friend, Samantha Caldone (Kay Panabaker). Tormented and afraid to face her peers at school, Taylor is pushed to an extreme breaking point. It is only after this life-changing event that Taylor learns that she is not alone – meeting other teens, including a classmate, who have had similar experiences. Taylor's mom, Kris (Kelly Rowan), reels from the incident and takes on the school system and state legislation to help prevent others from going through the same harrowing ordeal as her daughter.
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